24-Hour Domestic Abuse Hotline: 208.343.7025

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Warning Signs: Is it really abuse?

24-Hour Domestic Violence Hotline: 208.343.7025 24-hour Rape Crisis Hotline: 208.345.7273 (RAPE)

Abusive Relationships

Power and Control Wheel
Domestic Abuse Intervention Project Project
www.duluth-model.org

Domestic abuse involves a complex dynamic of intimidation, fear, and a pattern of control within intimate relationships. It includes physical, sexual, psychological, and emotional abuse, and affects individuals from all backgrounds.

If you recognize the warning signs, please call our 24-hour domestic violence hotline at 208.343.7025 for safety planning, crisis counseling, and information referrals.

Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship

  • You avoid family and friends and/or your partner keeps you from family and friends. You spend all your free time with your partner.
  • You do not participate in activities that you enjoyed before beginning the relationship. You experience sudden changes in eating habits, dress, or appearance.
  • Your partner displays jealous or possessive tendencies but states that he/she is only looking after you and that it is because he/she loves you.
  • Your partner frequently uses name-calling, threats, or intimidation against you.
  • You are unable or fearful of making decisions without your partner. You have an unreasonable fear of upsetting your partner.
  • You find yourself frequently justifying your partner’s behavior to your friends and family. You take the blame when your partner becomes upset or angry with you.

What to do if you are in an Abusive or Relationship

    • Trust your instincts — you can seek resources for your safety.
    • Call our 24-Hour Hotline: 208.343.7025 to speak to a trained client advocate and find out what resources are available to you, or visit our website’s Get Help section.
    • Call 208.577.4498 and a WCA court advocate can assist you in developing a safety plan when you are ready to leave.
    • Store important items and documents; or copies of them, for you and your children in a safe place (identification, birth certificates, social security cards, immigration documents, work permits, medical records, cash and ATM cards, keys, medications, and important phone numbers).
    • Be safe — you can always call 911 if you are in immediate danger.

How to Help Someone in an Unhealthy Relationship

      • Listen, believe, and validate them. Let him/her know that you care and you want them to be safe.
      • Do not ask questions that imply blame. Someone who is being abused is not responsible for their partner’s choices or violence and does not deserve shame or blame.
      • Do not be critical of the abusive partner — instead make firm statements that physical violence, emotional, verbal and/or any abuse of any kind — under any circumstance, is unacceptable.
      • Do not assume that they are ready to leave the relationship or that you know what is best for her/him. Don’t pressure them to make quick decisions.
      • Become a comfort zone for them, assure them that their conversation with you will not be revealed to their abuser.
      • Assist them in getting legal help if necessary or with other sources of protection, such as protective orders, restraining orders, changing current phone numbers, etc.
      • Do not force them or put pressure to not see the abuser. It may be very difficult to leave the relationship for many reasons. Respect their choices.
      • Do not advise them to leave or judge them for staying. People are the best experts in their own lives and ultimately know what is best for themselves at any particular time.
      • Provide information and resources in a non-judgmental and gentle manner so that they are able to make educated and informed decisions about their future.
      • Provide a safe environment and opportunities for them to become aware of available resources, explore their options, and know that they do not deserve to be abused.
      • Don’t underestimate the danger. Frequently, the most dangerous time for someone being abused is when they leave the abuser. If you fear for their safety, call 911 immediately.

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EVENTS

Feb 26

2021

#KnowYourWorth Virtual Event

A virtual event center on TDVAM, featuring youth leaders discussing TDV and its impact, as well as virtual content created by young folks that promotes resources, spreads awareness, or embodies prevention. Thursday, February 26th: 5-6pm on ZOOM More information to come!

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Feb 28

2021

#KnowYourWorth Call for Content

This February during Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month (TDVAM), the WCA Youth REPs are hosting a call for content.  We are specifically looking for visual art content created by teens for teens that we can use throughout the year on our social media platforms to share resources, spread awareness, and advocate for dating violence prevention.  […]

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Mar 07

2021

NoMore Week 2021

NO MORE Week is March 7-13, 2021 Inspiring everyone to make change and help create a culture of safety, equality, and respect in our communities. No matter where you are, #ChangeHappensHere. Join #WCABoise and share your NO MORE Week #ChangeHappensHere sign! Are you a change-maker? Tell us why you say NO MORE with your own NO […]

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Mar 10

2021

Fundraiser at Bella Aquila Ristorante-March

The Second Wednesday of every month benefits the Women’s and Children’s Alliance at Bella Aquila Ristorante. Sponsored by Bella Aquila Ristorante and Street Shield Self Defense Wednesday, March 10, 2021 4 PM MST – 9 PM MST Bella Aquila Ristorante 775 Rivershore Lane Eagle, Idaho

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Mar 17

2021

Bea Informed

Join WCA CEO, Bea Black for a one-hour virtual information session, hear about WCA services and learn how you can get involved and support the important work of the organization and what you can do to support those in our community affected by the trauma of domestic abuse and sexual assault. Wednesday, March 17: 11:30 […]

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Mar 22

2021

Bea Informed

Join WCA CEO, Bea Black for a one-hour virtual information session, hear about WCA services and learn how you can get involved and support the important work of the organization and what you can do to support those in our community affected by the trauma of domestic abuse and sexual assault. Monday, March 22: 5 […]

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Mar 30

2021

Bea Informed

Join WCA CEO, Bea Black for a one-hour virtual information session, hear about WCA services and learn how you can get involved and support the important work of the organization and what you can do to support those in our community affected by the trauma of domestic abuse and sexual assault. Tuesday, March 30: Noon […]

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Apr 01

2021

Sexual Assault Awareness Month

April is National Sexual Assault Awareness Month April 1-30, 2021 Find more about the national campaign here

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Apr 15

2021

Tribute to Women and Industry

28th Annual Virtual “TWIN” Awards Celebration April 15, 2021 Join us from Noon – 1:30 p.m. The annual Tribute to Women and Industry (TWIN): Honors women who have excelled in their fields and made significant contributions to industry in executive, managerial and professional roles Salutes corporations whose policies and practices encourage high achievement by women […]

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Apr 28

2021

Denim Day

April 28, 2021 is Denim Day Denim Day is a day-long awareness campaign that allows us to honor survivors of sexual assault and start conversations about the dangers of victim blaming. Why denim? In 1992 an 18-year-old Italian girl was sexually assaulted by her 45-year-old male driving instructor. While he was initially convicted of the […]

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