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Compassion Project August 2019

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“Daring to set boundaries is about the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” – Brené Brown

Tracy Darling-DeMarcus, Prevention Program Manager

Tracy Darling-DeMarcus, Prevention Program Manager

In the simplest terms, a boundary is what’s okay or not okay. Often when I’m speaking with young people about boundaries, they say things like “it’s drawing a line someone shouldn’t cross”, or “boundaries are telling someone what not to do”. Rather than framing boundaries as a way to keep other people out, I try to turn the discussion to how boundaries are a tool to keep us safe and secure in our relationships. For example, rather than saying “You need to give me some space”, saying “I need time for myself to feel my best in this relationship.”

One of the many reasons why people don’t set or keep boundaries is because they are afraid of being met with rejection, guilt, disappointment or anger. But setting and maintaining boundaries is an act of self-compassion. When we talk about boundaries as an act of self-love, we are saying that setting this boundary isn’t about keeping you out; it’s about me and what I need.

Learning to set boundaries and enforce them can be a challenging and long-term process. Like any skill, assertively communicating boundaries can take practice.

The Compassion Project: Let us be the ones who transform our world by allowing compassion to lead our action. Throughout the year, this column will feature the various ways to have compassion for others, for our specific organization, and for yourself.

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Aug 25

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WCA Mission Tour

Join us for a 35 minute virtual tour to learn about our mission of safety, healing and freedom through the stories of clients and the impact of our services. The WCA Mission Tour aims to inspire and educate about the complexities and realities of domestic abuse and sexual assault, both here in the Treasure Valley […]

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Oct 02

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SueB 5k 10k 2022

On October 2, 2022, we celebrate the 13th annual SueB 5k 10k at noon After two years of racing virtually, we invite you to join us IN PERSON to raise awareness about domestic abuse, while memorializing the life of an individual who has brought so many people together. The SueB 5k 10k provides a space […]

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Oct 12

2022

Witches Night Out at the Village

Mark your calendars for Witches Night Out on October 12, 2022 from 5 – 9 p.m. Wednesday, October 12 we will be celebrating Witches Night Out at The Village at Meridian, hosted by Meridian’s Centercal Properties and its marvelous merchants. Several sponsors help make the evening a resounding success, raising funds for the WCA’ clients’ […]

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Oct 28

2022

Healing Begins with Hope

WCA Healing Begins with Hope Virtual Outreach and Fundraising Event When: October 28, 2022 As the WCA celebrates 112 years of changing lives, we would like to invite our community to mark their calendars and save the date! The event will be an opportunity to learn more about the WCA’s mission of safety, healing and […]

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