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Written by: Kayla Hudson, LCSW, WCA Clinician 

Leaving an abusive relationship may sound like freedom. In many ways, this brave first step does offer relief. Unfortunately, the reality of intimate partner abuse is that most who choose to leave have a long journey ahead towards healing. For many of our clients, the abuse continues past separation, and the emotional scars are always present.

In therapy, these individuals often are learning how to have healthy relationships, establish appropriate boundaries, and be empowered to use their voice. In addition to these often difficult tasks, grief and loss are continual themes in therapy. For adults, this may be the loss of love, a friend, and the marriage and family they hoped to build. For children, it can be the loss of a parent, and the confusion of not having the same family structure as other kids. Many of these children struggle to reconcile their desire to have a relationship with the abusive parent, while attempting to navigate the relationship with their primary caregiver.

For these reasons, even simple holidays like Mother’s or Father’s day can pose a unique set of challenges. Imagine an entire holiday devoted to celebrating a person that you may hate. These types of scenarios can be striking reminders of the family a child wishes they had. When faced with situations like this, parents find that an effective technique for celebrating these holidays is to re-frame them.

For instance, instead of “Father’s Day” families may choose to celebrate “Freedom from Dad Day.” Some families choose to honor other “fathers” in their lives that have made a positive impact including pastors, coaches, other family members, or family friends.  This can also be a helpful opportunity for children to learn about healthy relationships and what kind of parent they hope to be someday. Safety and healing is a unique journey for every family and each individual within the system must find their own path to freedom.

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Jul 11

2022

WCA Mission Tour

Join us for a 35 minute virtual tour to learn about our mission of safety, healing and freedom through the stories of clients and the impact of our services. The WCA Mission Tour aims to inspire and educate about the complexities and realities of domestic abuse and sexual assault, both here in the Treasure Valley […]

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Jul 28

2022

WCA Mission Tour

Join us for a 35 minute virtual tour to learn about our mission of safety, healing and freedom through the stories of clients and the impact of our services. The WCA Mission Tour aims to inspire and educate about the complexities and realities of domestic abuse and sexual assault, both here in the Treasure Valley […]

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Oct 02

2022

SueB 5k 10k 2022

On October 2, 2022, we celebrate the 13th annual SueB 5k 10k at noon After two years of racing virtually, we invite you to join us IN PERSON to raise awareness about domestic abuse, while memorializing the life of an individual who has brought so many people together. The SueB 5k 10k provides a space […]

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Oct 12

2022

Witches Night Out at the Village

Mark your calendars for Witches Night Out on October 12, 2022 from 5 – 9 p.m. Wednesday, October 12 we will be celebrating Witches Night Out at The Village at Meridian, hosted by Meridian’s Centercal Properties and its marvelous merchants. Several sponsors help make the evening a resounding success, raising funds for the WCA’ clients’ […]

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Oct 28

2022

Healing Begins with Hope

WCA Healing Begins with Hope Virtual Outreach and Fundraising Event When: October 28, 2022 As the WCA celebrates 112 years of changing lives, we would like to invite our community to mark their calendars and save the date! The event will be an opportunity to learn more about the WCA’s mission of safety, healing and […]

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