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Love: What it is and what it’s not

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By Jennifer Cochern, WCA Clinical Services Manager

There are many ways we can talk about love.  There are certain images and words describing what love is that can lead to confusion and sometimes dangerous situations if acted on. There are many things about love that can’t be summed up in a word. Some words are what love is not. Below are two lists that might help you to sort out what love is and what it’s not.  You are the only one who can decide how you want to be treated.

Love is…

Love is not…

  • responsibility
  • hard work
  • pleasure
  • commitment
  • caring
  • honesty
  • trust
  • strong feelings
  • communication
  • respect
  • compromising
  • openness
  • vulnerability
  • closeness
  • recognizing differences
  • friendship
  • sharing
  • jealousy
  • pregnancy
  • possessiveness
  • control
  • pain
  • giving up yourself
  • violence
  • dependency
  • intimidation
  • obsession
  • fear
  • sex
  • being selfish
  • manipulation
  • proving yourself
  • cruelty
  • expecting all your needs to be met

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