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24-Hour Domestic Violence Hotline: 208.343.7025 24-hour Rape Crisis Hotline: 208.345.7273 (RAPE)

As I was growing up I remember very clearly my parents admonition to “mind my own business” and “don’t stare – it’s rude”! Good manners were very important to them and since I wanted to please them they were important to me as well. Many of you probably remember being told the same thing. While I am still a big believer that good manners are important, I have to say that since coming to work at the WCA, my interpretation of when to follow these rules has changed a lot. Staring can still be very bad manners – but giving someone a solid stare because they are behaving badly in a public setting is not something I consider rude anymore. Furthermore, taking action and NOT “minding my own business” if someone is being hurt or otherwise mistreated in my presence – is also not rude but rather a sign of empathy and caring. While I would never encourage someone to put themselves at risk if they see violence being perpetrated, I do think we all have a responsibility to be more aware and know what options we have should we come across an individual that looks like they can use help. This can range from calling 911 on the cell phone most of us have handy, to handing the individual one of our “shoe cards” so they can make their own decision about whether they are ready to call us for services. The most important thing each of us can do is to be more aware – pay attention to the nuances in conversations or body language and be ready to offer resources if you think something might be amiss. If nothing is wrong, no one will be insulted to think you cared enough to try and help. If something IS wrong, think how trapped they feel that no one notices!

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Jun 22


WCA Mission Tour

Join us for a 35 minute virtual tour to learn about our mission of safety, healing and freedom through the stories of clients and the impact of our services. The WCA Mission Tour aims to inspire and educate about the complexities and realities of domestic abuse and sexual assault, both here in the Treasure Valley […]

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Oct 01


SueB 5k and Family Friendly Scavenger Hunt October 1, 2023

Join us for the 14th annual SueB 5k The 14th annual SueB 5k will be on October 1, 2023 and we hope you can join us! We invite you to join us to raise awareness about domestic abuse, while memorializing the life of an individual who has brought so many people together. The SueB 5k […]

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